Pregnancy loss in twin or triplet pregnancies is more common than in a singleton pregnancy. Multiple pregnancies carry more risks, meaning complications can occur which can result in miscarriage or stillbirth.

You may feel a complex range of emotions if you've lost one of your babies. These emotions may feel unexpected. Here are some emotions which other parents have shared with us that they've felt:

• Feeling torn between grieving for your dead twin or triplet(s)and allowing yourself to feel joy for the birth of your surviving baby or babies.
• Feeling angry that the experience of having twins or triplets has been taken away from you.
• The loss of a family life you thought you were going to have.
• Blaming yourself for what happened or a sense of shame.
• A sense of loneliness and a worry that you won't be able to bond with your surviving twin or triplet(s).
• A loss of trust in life and your body and a continuing sense of loss about what the future holds.
• Feeling out of control - worrying that this amount of grief cannot be normal and if you will ever feel the same again.
• Worrying about how you're going to cope caring for your surviving twin or triplet(s) when your heart is breaking for the twin or triplet(s) who've died.

Twins Trust 'was a lifeline' for mother after twin daughter died during pregnancy

As she lights a candle and a flame flickers in the darkness during Baby Loss Awareness Week (2022), twin mum Katie Harris will remember Abikara, her daughter who died in January 2021.

Personal experiences, Bereavement, Loss during pregnancy

Remember: your feelings are valid

Whatever you're feeling is valid and you're not alone. The bond between an expectant mother and their unborn baby is real and your grief is a valid reaction.

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