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Help! I have 2.5 twins who find being out of the buggy such a novelty they run off the second they can. I keep trying but even with reins I can’t see how I will ever manage them by myself- does anyone have any advice as I feel like they aren’t as independent as they should be. We attempt a walk whenever my husband is free but it always ends in a tantrum and it’s starting to worry me a bit! Any advice would be appreciated!
Mine are 18 months old and I took them out on the boomereins for the first time last week. I took my eldest (15) with me too and he pushed the pushchair whilst I dealt with the two of them. I expected my boy to be the troublesome one as around Christmas my OH and I took them to the park across the road and my girl was happy to hold my hand but he refused, was a nightmare and ended up being carried. This time though he was really good, didn’t want to hold my hand the whole time but didn’t object to it when crossing the road or passing others on the path. My girl on the other hand kept wanting to go the other way, wouldn’t hold my hand and flung herself down in a strop when she didn’t get what she wanted. She was in the pushchair by the end of the road and was not happy that her brother still got to walk. I plan to keep taking them out with the pushchair as well and when one is too much they won’t be allowed to walk anymore. Hoping that perseverance is the key.
I had "Adventure belt" reins which are really good because you can attach them both to you and still have both hands free. I do remember plenty of tantrums though at that age, someone sitting down and refusing to walk any more for a bit, and having to carry one or the other from time to time, especially on the walk back from morning at nursery because of course they were hungry and tired, bingo! That's just a phase. Keep at it as it's so good for them and for you, and it would be great not to be reliant on having someone else available. You can take the pushchair at first if you think you might need it, and build up to short trips without it. Then when you think the time is right you move to walking along holding hands with no reins but only when you think they're ready to not get run over 😉
I would probably take it a step back and practise holding hands and pretending to cross roads at home first. Make sure they understand and obey simple instructions like 'hold hands' and 'stop'. Explain road safety in language they can understand. Once they get it, progress to quiet roads, inside a supermarket, an enclosed playground with your husband. You may or may not need reins for reassurance depending on how consistently your twins follow instructions. We got reins but road safety awareness was enough for mine. At some point you'll know when it feels safe take them out on your own in a quiet public space.
Hi, I have twin boys who are nearly 3. Firstly I would say they have come on loads in the last 6 months so don't panic there is hope! I did use reigns. I just made it a condition of not being in the buggy. It was their choice. They wore the reigns or went in the buggy. Pretty soon they were always happy with the reigns. Then I moved on to getting them to hold onto the buggy. The rule is they have to either hold my hand or the buggy to cross the road or anywhere else i think it's dangerous. They also sometimes like to 'help' push the buggy. Tricky but I do know where they are! Hope you find something that works for you.
Hi, I have 22 month twins, we have similar issues. We only take them out with reins if both me and my partner are both around, on my own it’s just not feasible. We also experience regular tantrums with one of the boys and often have to carry him. The way I give them a bit of independence is by letting them loose in the local playground. It’s the only one I’m happy to do so in as it’s a reasonable open space with complete visibility. Other parks are more difficult with their layout so I avoid them. It’s hard work having to keep an eye on both at the same time but it’s getting easier and they’re learning boundaries. I often read about how this is a common struggle for twin parents, it will get better in time 😊 x
Hi Amy. I feel exactly the same and my twins are 3 years old. My son is really good at holding my hand, but my daughter just wants to run off and does not understand the dangers of doing so near a road. I’m not sure how I’m going to manage walking them to pre-school in January so like you would value advice on how other twin parents manage! Laura
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