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Feel really overwheed since my 6 month old twins have been both teething so more unsettled and fussy with bottles/ solids and not napping/ sleeping at night well in the 6 months sleep regression. New years eve my 2 year old started showing more interest in the toilet asking for it and refusing to wear nappies and has done wees and poos on the toilet. Winter time in a lockdown when the twins are unsettled is not when I'd plan to do it 🙈 but she's decided we're starting it. She's needing prompting every half hour to go to the toilet and when wearing leggings especially we have accidents a few times a day as she sometimes holds it a few hours regardless of prompting 🤷♀️. With the pandemic the only help we can have is our bubbles but my mum has fibromyalgia so can be unpredictable if she's able to come and help and my husbands parents used to have my 2 year old 2 days a week but since she's stopped daytime napping she's been getting more tired/demanding late afternoon so they've been wanting to bring her back earlier now and my husband does 12 hour shifts so the even routines on me really. Now she's toilet training aswell think the in laws are abit overwhelmed by it and are none committal about help said they'd see how it goes with 1 day this week and if it doesn't go well they'll come for a few hours out of my husbands 12 hour shift next week 🙈. My mums having a flare up of her condition so can't come to help me as planned at the weekend when my husbands working. I feel extremely overwhelmed and not sure it's possible on my own to be prompting a toddler to go to the toilet every 30 mins, changing her after accidents, plus going on demand (she needs me to take her) whilst having teething unsettled/ not great at napping 6 month old twins solids and milk every 3 hours. I'm drained with feeling like I need to pursuade people to help me constantly the in laws say I'm complaining if I say how hard it is and lately I've been running on adrenaline so put a face on it and have to keep going because there's no other option and you need to be ridiculously upbeat to keep my toddler motivated for toilet training and if I allowed myself to stop and be overwhelmed id never get going again. Because they see me running around juggling everything they just say I'm doing a good job keeping everyone from crying at once and when my husband tries booking them in to help when he's working they say its not helping my confidence having people there to help when he's working and they don't think it's needed. I've just had enough of having to beg people for help and I can't cope on my own don't know what to do. Spoke to the doctor before he said phone counselling last lockdown, offered antidepressants and actually contacted my health visitor because he wasn't happy I was told there's no support for parents of multiples in my area only for my health visitor to tell me this again, and from what I've googled if you don't have/ want Facebook there's no help 🤷♀️. I've refused antidepressants because I've had them before and felt numb/ tired on them and if lockdown isn't going to be rough enough without not feeling anything to even enjoy the small glimpses of nice moments and I really don't think I could function with feeling anymore tired with all 3 on my own, so there not an option can't afford to have side effect with any off days. I've just realised this is a ridiculously long post 🤣 so sorry about that just at my wits end with what to do and so fed up with no one understanding what it's like. Has anyone else managed toilet training a toddler with twin babies aswell?
Thanks Leena, sounds like you have alot on your plate, really hope things improve soon with the pandemic so more help and support is available for us all 🤞. Home schooling with other children at home must be really hard sounds like your doing an amazing job. Definitely crazy times we're living in at the moment 🙈 x
So sorry to hear you are having a tough time but I can totally understand where you are coming from. I have to admit I am avoiding toilet training my toddler (he is 33 months) at home as I have enough on my plate with 2 months old twins and my 5 year old on remote learning from school. I dread the day they announce nurseries have to close as there is no way I can juggle all 4 while keeping them quiet so husband can work from home. Help is sadly impossible as my family is in Germany and in-laws unavailable due to health conditions. I can only echo the other posts that you are doing well and don't be hard on yourself if something has to give at times.
Thanks TG it's definitely tough when you've got kids for long stints on your own. Ye think we're going to have a talk as you like you say last thing you need is to burn out. Think it's quite easy to make it look like your coping and juggle everything but without help I honestly think that level of juggling is impossible. Really hope you manage to sort out help days can be very long in a winter lockdown with kids 🙈. Hopefully more support and option will be available to us all post lockdown 🤞 x
Sending you a massive hug! I feel like everything you put on here is so relatable as we have similar situations. However I am really lucky my mum is very local and able to offer me a lot of support. I wonder if you want to exchange numbers and we could WhatsApp each other, my son toilet trained over the summer and i found it stressful but it suddenly clicked and I could chat to you about my experience. I just want to say yiu are doing amazingly don’t doubt yourself this is the toughest I gig I’ve ever had and I promise it will get easier xx
Hi, I have no advice regarding how to juggle toilet training and your twins. I just wanted to say you're not alone in how you're feeling. Lockdown has been hard on everyone but especially having twins to juggle alongside all the other responsibilities you have is so hard. I'm in a similar position regarding people helping, my husband works nights and sleeps in the day and I work from home. Helps been offered but not easy to actually make happen. Its so exhausting. I really hope you manage to find something that can work for you, maybe a potty in the same/closer area that you're usually in? I know its easier said than done but maybe just be honest with your in-laws that you really need the help right now. The worst thing would be to burn out completely, and they need to know that. If not can you form a support bubble with a friend for help? You're doing great, good luck with everything.