15 July 2025

When new mum Ashley didn’t feel herself after the birth of her twins, she didn’t know why. She didn’t feel normal and said everything ‘felt up in the air’.

It was only when a therapist suggested to Ashley that she might be suffering from birth trauma that she realised what was wrong. Ashley is sharing her story and helping to raise awareness of the issue that hits thousands of new mothers after birth.

Despite feeling unwell during her pregnancy, with some bad bouts of sickness, Ashley had a healthy pregnancy. “At about 33 weeks, I was in and out of hospital and I kept having my regular scans every two weeks. The babies arrived at 36 weeks, in August 2021. I was booked in for a C-section as they were both breech pretty much through the whole pregnancy. But then the babies turned and the consultant said nothing should go wrong. I was told I would be induced. The next day labour came on thick and fast. I knew I needed to push, I knew the feeling from when I had my first son. I was about 6cm dilated.”

Ashley said the atmosphere then suddenly changed as a red emergency button was pushed by the midwife and staff flooded into the room. She added: “From then on it was like chaos. The babies were coming and I was rushed down to theatre. I was going to have an epidural but the anaesthetist didn’t get to me in time. They wheeled me into the room and within five or 10 minutes, Freddie pretty much flew out. Sydney wasn’t coming and then Freddie was taken away.

“Someone was holding my head, another holding my belly. I wanted someone to say what was going on. They said they were seeing if I needed a C-section. I didn’t know if the hospital had been in that situation before. When I knew I was having twins, I asked what the chances were of me having one natural and one C-section, apparently it’s very rare.”

Ashley was then told she would have to have a C-section and be put to sleep, as it needed to be completed quickly. Ashley said what followed after the birth of Sydney, felt like an ‘out of body experience’.

“They thought I would wake up after the C-section after 45 minutes, but I didn’t wake for four hours. I looked at the time and I didn’t know where my daughter was, but I could see my partner holding Freddie and then I saw Sydney was there.” After the birth, Ashley stayed in hospital for a few days and once home she realised she needed to process the birth and what had happened.

“It all started to take its toll. I was looking after others before myself. I started to have therapy and realised it was birth trauma. I had never suffered with my mental health before, so this was all brand new. This was a time when my partner and I were meant to be enjoying this new life but everything was up in the air and I didn’t know if I was coming or going. It was the complete opposite to how I expected it to be.”

After questioning how she was feeling and speaking to her health visitor and therapist, Ashley realised she had birth trauma. She added: “It didn’t even occur to me that it could have been birth trauma. The therapist said she thought I had birth trauma and I looked into it and knew that sounded like what I had. I had to take time off work. I was still happy with my kids thankfully. I had the love for my children and I bonded with them. But everything with me just wasn’t me. There was something going on not my normal state and things were getting on top of me.”

It is so important to talk about birth trauma

Ashley said she had tried to piece together what had happened to her during her birth.

“I knew what was happening as I was put to sleep but when I woke up, I didn’t know what had happened. They didn’t go through what had happened in hospital and debriefs are really needed. There are still parts I can’t remember. I still ask my partner questions about what happened now, years on from their birth. I wrote about it on my Instagram and so many mums contacted me saying it had happened to them – birth trauma needs to be talked about. Some days when I talk about it, I feel angry. Sometimes I don’t think I am through it but I know I am a good parent.”

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) has helped Ashley process what happened. She said: “I want to make it clear to people that they aren’t on their own and it is so important to talk about birth trauma.”

You can follow Ashley on Instagram at @aidan_and_the_twins